I think I may have accidentally stumbled onto the secret of making dating easy and dare I say it....fun. Yep, you read that right. I used the "F" word in the same sentence as the word "dating." The world must seriously be coming to an end. But I digress.
What is this illusive secret you ask? I call it the "Being Too Busy To Give A Crap Approach." (Hereafter referred to as "The Approach.") Gone are the days of checking my match.com account obsessively to see how many emails and winks I've gotten. No longer do I check my email inbox every five minutes to see if that cute boy I've been corresponding with has emailed me back. I don't check the phone 50 times a day to see if there is a message from some boy I had coffee with. I don't spend hours each night searching to see if there are any new prospects online. I really just haven't had the time nor the inclination. And you know what? I'm freakin' happy!
The crazy thing is, that I haven't lacked for dates or other things to do. I'm actually trying to find the time to just sit home and veg out. Maybe it's just that it's summer and there's a lot going on, but I'm finding that not caring or having time to wonder about dating seems to have ensured that my dance card is pretty full.
The last time I found myself using The Approach was by accident. That time, I was actually not dating at all and I wound up meeting Frat Boy and getting into a 5 year relationship. Colorado Beth had a similar experience once she decided to move back to Florida. Right after she decided what she wanted she met a guy in Colorado. Go figure. Maybe that's what every one means when they say stop looking and you'll find it.........
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
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Yep, they say that.
Hasn't happened to me, but I unconsciously have "the approach" down pat myself, too busy to think half the time, just the way I like it, you can't worry about being single and generally just don't have the inclination.
My problems begin when I have nothing to do....
Fingers crossed!
No matter how good a single person looking for Mr. Right is at hiding their loneiness, it is still shining through because you just give off this vibe... GOT to find Mr. Right, GOT to have babies, GOT to get a big home. If you can just "be" it will happen because that vibe is overshadowed by how awesome you really are.
maybe i'm getting old an tired (ha ha) but i'm to lazy to make an effort to date right now. and i don't feel lonely at all. in fact, i NEED more downtime! i guess i should be more careful what i wish for though, right? :)
Myself- yeah boredom can be the undoing of the approach!
AGAW- yeah, you really can reek of desperation if you let yourself get caught up in the must haves.
Surfergrrl- I love being too busy or too lazy to care!
The movie "Under the Tuscan Sun" reminds me of this.
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