I have an ex boyfriend (Frat Boy) who used to say "He who cares the least wins." He believed this about business negotiations as well as relationships. He always seemed a bit aloof about our relationship as if he would be fine if things ended and his world would not change. I kind of thought he meant it. He was pretty good actor.
During our sometimes long and drawn out discussions about whether we should continue to date/get married/have babies, I would always remind him that I was fine before we met and that I would be fine if we broke up. I DID mean it.
Flash forward a year and a half after we ended things. I hadn't called or contacted him. I even stopped shopping at a grocery store that we both frequented. I wanted a clean, healthy break.
However, skippy wasn't doing quite as well as he thought. After rushing into a bad marriage, he found himself on my doorstep hammered and crying, asking for a mulligan. Umm.... yeah, probably not, but thanks for playing. Maybe he should have changed it to SHE who cares the least wins.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
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This is very true on so many levels. I find that when I stop caring I win. Not the lottery, but people. Strange as it sounds, when one tries too hard to get something (or someone), too much trying hurts. Thank you for this post.
I don't think it's good to enter a relationship with a "they who care less wins" attitude. I find myself doing that, and wonder if it really may be causing me to LOSE. Right now I am just trying to follow my heart, caring isn't a bad thing.
Wow. I can't imagine doing anything (by choice) and not caring all that much. Seems like a really mediocre way to live life.
I agree with Nilsa on that one! But it did have to feel some what redeeming??
I have to say, I have heard that expression before. I even believe that expression - HOWEVER and I mean this with love, if anyone ever says that to you... DUMP THEIR ASS IMMEDIATELY.
If a person is bragging, "I can love you less," then he should take his highly trained skills somewhere else.
oxoxox
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