Can You Change Your Type?

Talking with a friend this week, we wound up in a discussion surrounding types of people we date.  She made the comment that the type of guy she tends to be attracted to does not seem to be attracted to her.  She mentioned how time and time again, she will go out with these guys who are environmental activists or neo-hippie types who live alternative lifestyles which she finds intriguing.  She said all of the guys start out as if they are interested in her, but in the end, each guy stops dating her. She said a couple even told her that her lifestyle was too centered on consumerism.  (Whatever that means!)

It made me wonder, what do you do if you find that the type of person you are most attracted to does seem to find you attractive?  I began thinking about all of those eighties teen movies, where the nerdy guy or girl was in love with the captain of the football team or the head cheerleader.  (Think Pretty in Pink.)  In many of those movies, the nerdy person in question was able to get the attention of the objection of his or her affection and somehow change the circumstances and the captain of the football team would eventually realize he really was attracted to the nerdy girl.  Of course, life ain't exactly like the movies.

As for myself, I know that there are certain types of men that I will never be attracted to.  Even if those men are the nicest guys in the world, find me very attractive and pursue me, I just can't do it.  I've dated enough to know these men when I meet them and I often never let things get beyond one date (if it goes that far).   

So, what do you do if you find yourself attracted to a type of person that is not attracted to you?  Can you change who you are attracted to?  What do you all think?