I will never complain again about the types of men I attract! After reading messages boards and dealing with friends I know who have attracted a few losers, I've come to realize I'm not in bad shape at all.
I've never attracted any real weirdos to speak of. I've mostly gone out a few guys who weren't sure what they wanted or who weren't all that into to me or visa versa. I've never gone out with any serial killers, abusers, drug addicts, pedophiles, or all around psychos. I've actually dated pretty normal guys, with the occasional strange personality thrown in for kicks. (I'll have to blog about the The Sniffer one day.)
Listening to the trials and tribulations of a few people I know, has only increased my awareness that we really do wind up attracting other people into our lives based on what "vibes" we are putting out. For example, a person very close to me recently went through the ending of a long term relationship, to which she responded by jumping into a long distance relationship with someone new a month later. She recently moved in with this person (that she's known for less than six months)and has now gone through two MAJOR betrayals of trust. And still she wants to be with him. I'm pretty sure her vibe of desperation and just wanting to be with someone (anyone) attracted this unworthy character to her. This is the reason your friends/therapists/sisters tell you to deal with your grief and other issues before jumping into a new relationship!
In any event, I feel as if I am at least on the right path, minus a Sniffer or two, I haven't made any really bad choices so far. I just gotta deal with my own vibes. Possibly the one dealing with my own freedom issues?!?!?!
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Freedom issues. I hear you there. I think I put out the vibe that I don't need a man ever because I don't like being tied down. I'm well aware that a relationship doesn't have to tie you down though! Yeah amen on the no crazies....I had one. Ever. Phew!
I had 2 crazies in my day....they are long gone. Can't wait for the post about sniffer. lol...
You may be right about the vibe thing. Personal energy. Whatever you want to call it. IMO - the vibe isn't just for dating, it can be there for every aspect of life.
I get good vibes from you :)
And I want to see a post about the Sniffer ....
Perspective is such a great thing. Knowing what other people are dealing with, it makes me feel like "Whew...I ain't got it so bad!" great post.
hi! been reading your blog and enjoying it very much. I could relate with a lot of things being single myself.
You are lucky then to be in the right path. As for me, I'm quite convinced now that I'm a freak magnet. It is just unbelievable how many schizo guys are out there. :( It's really sad, it makes me just want to give up.
Hi coffee fairy! Welcome! I hope I'm on the right path, but I'm right there with you in the freak magnet feeling. I've entertained the idea of having t-shirt with that printed on it.
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