Exactly when do you tell a guy about your little blogging habit? I'm having a difficult time with this one. There *may* be a cute boy that I have been spending time with whom I'm beginning to feel the need to divulge my writings to. However, I'm not sure when this is appropriate or how to even bring up the subject. I don't want to spook the boy.
I know some of you bloggers out there have written about who you've allowed to read your blog, and some of you have decided not to tell family or significant others about your writings. So, who do you guys tell and when do you tell them? Especially when you are dating and your blog is about dating!!!!
It's not like I'm chronicling my sexual history or bad mouthing people I've gone out with. Mostly I pose crazy questions and write about my personal observations on trying to date in your 30's. I have no guilt about my blog, in fact, I've corresponded with some pretty cool people because of it. (Not to mention you guys give better advice than some therapists.) I'm just not sure I'm ready to put it out there and be judged for it.
Anyone else have a similar dilemma? Advice (and smartass comments) welcome.
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Maybe tell him it exists and that you write about your crazy adventures? My BF and I had an argument about blogging when I first started mine and posted stories about him, so I try to avoid TOO much talk about him (and often fail). I tell most people about the blog, if it comes up in conversation. I don't hide it, but I don't necessarily overshare, either.
I would say that if you guys get serious, you should at least let him know the blog exists. And then just listen to what he thinks about it and proceed from there.
Ack. I'm not sure I'd tell anyone I was dating about my blog. It takes away the freedom to write whatever you might need to write. Besides, who wants Mr. New reading back posts about Mr. Old?
I'd put it in the "don't ask/don't tell" category.
I always end up mentioning my blog when talking about things I like to do. They always seem to want to know (when they find out it's a personal blog) if I've written about them. I used to write about the guys I dated and all my dating adventures, but after a bit of a disaster encountered, I decided to let that go and now when I blog about relationships and dating I leave names out. Also I've stopped blogging about the current main squeeze. The Internet can know about him once he's out of the picture, during the fact seems to be not such a good idea.
i've kept a dating blog for what, 5 years now. i recommend telling no one about it. perhaps not even your girlfriends. i got into trouble with blogging about people, and hence it is now anonymous. i tell people i have one, but i just discuss the same issues with my friends in person. if you like to blog you can set up a separate non-dating blog to showcase your humor. i have read other people's blogs where they have had to stop writing - period - because of offending people. so it's a great outlet - when no one will get hurt.
i agree also about writing about the people i'm dating. once i start dating someone seriously he's out of the blog. just the general issues & me are in the blog.
I've never had to tell a significant other about my blog, but I have 2 friends that know it exists, however I haven't given them the address.
That said, you can just tell him it exists, he may not even be curious.
Cuz men are strange
Four of my friends read my blog and the guy I am sort of dating reads it. I have agreed to leave him and his issues out of it. I wrote a lot about him and my frustrations and his ex started reading it which made things uncomfortable and such. Then I went private and now I blog mostly about me.
I wouldn't tell any new guys about it though. My sister and brother know I blog but don't know the address. Yet. I may tell them.
I think it's up to you.
that said I'm considering starting a new one that none of my "real life" friends know about. :)
Thanks for all of the great suggestions. I think I'm going to keep my blog under my hat for now at least. Even though I don't write about people and name them, I do give some detail and that could get ugly. I don't really write about people I'm currently seeing if its serious, but I haven't had that problem in awhile, so it hasn't been an issue. ;)
Personally I can see no real reason to tell someone you've just started dating about your blog... why would you want to?
If things progress and become more serious then yeah, but until then keep it under wraps.
I wouldn't tell someone I was dating about my blog. Like other posters said, I would feel limited to express myself knowing that they might be reading it. You could aways start a separate blog which you could share with family and friends and you could occasionally cross-blog if the topic is ok.
My opinion....don't tell. he may come and haunt you..lol..
This is your private space, your private words, make him work for it.
You can tell how people will react just by bringing up the topic. They either cringe or smile. His reaction will tell you all you need to know.
See, I knew if I asked you guys, I'd get an answer! thanks!
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