Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Tripping Along

Ever notice how sometimes things work out perfectly when it wasn't even something you'd planned? Maybe it was even something you planned against! I've been taking notice of these more in my life recently. Some of them are startling.

This week I found out that a job I applied for last summer (and did not get) is being eliminated in the 10% across the board cut my office is taking. Thank God I didn't get the job because the person who did will soon be unemployed.

Recently, I received a letter from the IRS stating that I turned in my 2006 return late and they were assessing me (and my former business partner $400). I turned the issue over to my CPA who sent in the proof that I had not filed late, after all, and did not owe the IRS anymore money. Instead, after he reviewed my return, he realized it needed to be amended and the IRS owes ME an additional $2800. Sweet!

Lately, I've been lamenting and beating myself up about the money I took out of my mutual fund a while back to pay for a few unexpected expenses. I was feeling rather undisciplined about the fact that I have not put all of the money back. Instead, I was putting money in savings. Well, its a darn good thing the money was in savings because when the market dove this month, so did my mutual fund. If I'd put the money back in my fund, I'd have lost it and all of my scrimping and saving would have felt like it was in vain.

Even though some days I feel kind of like a bungling idiot, life still just seems to work out. Go figure. Maybe ignorance really is bliss.

Friday, October 24, 2008

Free Day Friday

I think I've mentioned before that occasionally, I give myself a free day, where all I do is act on my intuition and I don't plan anything for the entire day. If I feel like eating ice cream for breakfast, I do it. If I feel like walking to work and not driving, I follow that that thought and do it.

You wouldn't believe how freeing, yet how difficult it can be! NOT planning is not my initial reaction. I want to know what I am doing, where I am going ,and what the plan for the day is. However, I'm finding that planning is sometimes a futile effort. There is a season for everything and today is my season for not planning anything and just going with the flow.

So, my cyberpeeps, the challenge for today is to give yourself a free day. Don't plan anything and see where the day takes you. There might just be a huge surprise waiting for you somewhere! Let me know how it goes in the comments section!

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

If You Need Me, I'll Be In Rehab.......

..............reading and listening to my ipod. Or at least trying to recover from using them. Apparently, according to this article, reading and listening to music are true addictions. Who knew?!?! I figure since the "in" crowd is all going to rehab to recover from everything from drug and alcohol addiction to an addiction to racial/homophobic slurs, then I should be able to go into rehab for music and reading addictions. Right? Who's with me? But, I don't want to go into regular rehab where they make you clean the toilets and stuff. I want to go to one out in California where you get massages, yoga classes and gourmet meals. Wonder if I could talk my HMO into paying for that?

I don't have the inner ear issue associated with a reading addiction, but I do spend an awful lot of money on books (and music!), so maybe I should check in for a shopping addiction too?! Hey, do they let you stay longer in the rehab/resort if you have several addictions?!

I'm so confused! I think I need some chocolate. OMG, could I be addicted to that too?!? For the love of Pete! No wonder I'm still single. With all of my issues, I'm surprised I make it out of my lounge chair, put my book and my Hershey bar down , and take off my ipod to go into work. Hmmm, maybe if I didn't make it to work I could get sent to one of those rehab/resort places..........

Monday, October 20, 2008

Enjoying the Moment

I was recently reminded of a Caribbean cruise I took a couple of years ago. That trip taught me about living in and enjoying the moment for what it really is and not worrying about things to come.

My friend (we'll call him Keywest) and I were taking a jaunt around the island of Cozumel on a rented vespa. We had a map and enough gas (we thought) to get all the way around the island. However, we decided to take a detour into the center of the island to check out a ruined Mayan settlement. After wandering through the ruins, we took our time getting back to the main road. We stopped a couple of times along the way to check out little tiki huts with touristy stuff and to have lunch. In our excitement, we forgot to check the gas gauge and and about halfway back to the cruise ship port, we ran out of gas.

Fortunately, we were in this little area called Punta Sur. Keywest spoke just enough spanish to tell one of the locals of our predicament. Keywest was a bit agitated. He was afraid we were going to miss our embarking time back at port. I, on the other had, had somehow found the true Caribbean spirit in my soul and kept telling him things would be fine.

"Oh look, there's a bar! Let's get a beer!" I said.

"Um, we have a bigger problem, than thirst right, now. I'm not sure that guy really understood what I was saying." He replied, shooting me a dirty look.

"He understood, he looked inside the empty tank. " I said, walking toward the bar, where the reggae music and cold Corona beckoned. (I thought the reggae music in Mexico was a bit odd until I realized the name of the bar was Bob Marley House. Go figure.)

"We have to get back to port!" He called after me.

About that time, the local guy walked back up to Keywest and said something about having called a cab to bring us some gas.

"You wait!" He said in broken English.

"See, we have to wait on the gas anyway. We can have a beer and look at the ocean until the gas gets here." I said.

"How long is the wait?" Keywest asked the local man. I think that's what he said. I only know two words in spanish --cervesa and banos. (beer and bathroom--hey, what can I say? Beer makes me pee.)

"Could be thirty minutes, could be three hours, no worries---drink!" The local man replied.

And I obliged. Keywest, however, could not relax. He kept muttering something about missing the boat. Finally, I couldn't stand his funk anymore.

"Look," I said, "I have our passports, I have cash and credit cards. If we miss the boat, we can fly to freakin' Belize and meet the boat there! Just relax and enjoy the view."

We sat in silence on the deck of this little bar in the middle of nowhere and watched the waves roll in and out. It was one of the most gorgeous days I can remember. I felt very quiet and very still for the first time in a long time. I didn't care if I missed the damned boat or not. I was determined to enjoy that moment.

About forty five minutes later, the cab pulled up with our gas and we were on our way. We made it back to port with plenty of time to spare. The Universe provided and all we had to do was sit back and take in the moment.

(There was a quick and hilarious detour to the bathrooms at Bob Marley House that included having to get past a couple of enormous pigs, but that's a story for another time.)

The moral of this story is that sometimes, even when things look their bleakest, you have to stop and enjoy the present moment because if you don't, you just might miss something really beautiful.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Right Now

Sometimes, we let ourselves get so caught up in the fear of things that are not real. We fear what COULD happen, what people MIGHT think of us, what happened to OTHER people. We forget to be in the present moment and remind ourselves of the reality of what is NOW. So, in light of all of the crazy stuff going on in the world, I'm reminding myself that...

Right now, all of my bills are paid.
Right now, I am safe and warm and well fed.
Right now, I have great friends and family who love me.
Right now, I have a great job.
Right now, I have everything I need.
Right now, I am healthy.
Right now, life is REALLY, REALLY GOOD!

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Insecurity is Unattractive

I don't care who displays it! It can turn the hottest guy into the most unattractive prospect ever. It can turn the world's most beautiful woman into someone you wouldn't go out with if you were paid.

Not returning a phone call right away does not mean someone doesn't want to talk to you. It means that he/she has a life outside of you! I know that in the past I have jumped to this conclusion when a guy that I really liked didn't call when *I* thought he should. I also realized that *my* expectations were just that-mine. I had no right to hold anyone else to those expectations, especially when I never informed the boy of what those were! I learned the lesson by being called on my crazy behavior and unspoken expectations.

The first time I had this behavior reflected back to me in someone elses behavior, it REALLY clicked. I'm beginning to believe the quickest cure for this behavior is to have someone pull it on you. That's when it finally clicks that maybe, just maybe, the world does NOT revolve around you.

Okay, rant is over. I will now return to my regularly scheduled Pollyanna attitude.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Ten Things I am Grateful For

1.  A snugly kitty who wakes me up just before the alarm goes off
2. Blog buddies who always share their thoughts
3. Amazing family and friends who keep me sane
4.  Salt water and beautiful beaches
5. Feeling peaceful in a time of economic turmoil
6. My daily meditation
7. The beautiful view from my balcony
8. October
9. Great co-workers
10. The Travel Channel (for those times when I can't physically get away)

What are the things you guys are thankful for?

Friday, October 10, 2008

Do Nothing.....

...and everything gets done. At least that's what the Tao Te Ching tells us. I try to practice this seemingly easy mantra in my everyday life, but let me be the first to tell you, it is a lot harder than it sounds.

My understanding of this verse is that we should strive to let go of trying to control everything and let things happen naturally. Okay, very valid point. I get it. Stop controlling. Don't have to tell me twice. Or maybe you do.....

What I find difficult is determining which situations really do need my action and which situations would be best served if I stayed out of them. This is the hard part. For example, if you aren't happy in your job, do you frantically send out resumes for every job that seems to fit your criteria? Or do you wait patiently keeping your eyes open for something to come along without really putting out a ton of effort? Do you date every available man, using every available online dating service or do you just keep your eyes peeled for a nice guy in your every day life?

I struggle between doing nothing and taking action. At what point do you stop wishing for something and start doing something to get it? Karen Luniw of the Law of Attraction Center says that we shouldn't just take any action, she would say take "inspired action." Karen advises listening to those nagging little voices (I've definitely got one of those) and those little inspirations that you get during the day. She believes those are the actions we should be focusing on in order to get us where we are going or to get us what we are asking for. I don't know about you, but this is a lot easier said than done for me because, I have a lot of noise in my head!

So, the struggle continues or maybe the fact that something is a struggle is the problem in the first place. Maybe just doing nothing really is the way to go.

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

How to Lose A Guy Two Date Diva Style

I am a smart ass. It is not a new thing. I've always been one,and I can't see me changing now. However, there are definitely times when I wish I could tame my inner smart ass or at least muzzle her on occasion.

Take my reaction to an overenthusiastic date recently. He was gushing over how he was so glad he'd met me and how perfect we seemed for each other. He just loved my sense of humor. Famous last words buddy.

Mr. Over Enthusiastic: I know this is only our second date, but I really feel a connection and I think we should date each other exclusively. I know that I don't want to date anyone else but you. And who knows? Maybe this thing could go on and we could get married one day? Wouldn't that be great? We could do a Match.com commercial! What do you think?

Me: Dude....Marriage? Match Commercial? I really hadn't thought that far ahead. I was just here for the sushi.

It was my poor attempt at humor during a very awkward moment of having a guy I barely knew plan out the rest of our lives together, including a dating commercial. I guess he didn't really like my sense of humor after all. Perhaps it was my impulsive use of the word "dude." Oh well.

And with that, I threw another one back into the eternal dating sea.


Lately, I've been feeling a bit restless. I get this way every now and again. I'm not really agitated or upset, but I do get the urge to do something. Anything, actually. It's hard to explain because usually when people feel this way they are upset or worried about something, but I don't feel that way. It's almost like I'm nesting or something.

It could just be that it's fall. I absolutely love this time of the year. It's my favorite without a doubt. Even when I was a kid, the prospect of going back to school in the fall could not dampen my enthusiasm for the cooler weather and the chance to dress up for Halloween. But I digress, this restlessness I'm feeling now is even more than excitement over playing dress up and traipsing about in fallen leaves. It's not a bad feeling, in fact, it's a great feeling. It's like I'm getting ready for something...something really good.

I've been purging myself of unnecessary stuff lately. I've started going through my books and selling them on Amazon. So far, I've made a tidy little profit. I've also sold some furniture I wasn't using on Craig's List and given a crap load of stuff to Goodwill. The more stuff I get rid of, the better I feel. My rationalization is that I'm putting my stuff back out into the universe for other people who need it more than me. (And it's a lot less crap I have to dust!)

How many of you get these restless feelings from time to time and what do you do about them?